Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Tribute to Caregivers

Many of us have parents and family members who need our attention. I am one of the caregivers and I would like to make a tribute to all that have done or are doing now. I do part of mine from home and some from the phone and driving to my Mother's. I thought Motherhood was tough, but this is tougher in some respects. I feel like I am paying back for all the nose wiping and diaper changing that was done for me when I deal with my Mom.
The hard part is your life partner when he or she need your help. Many have life threatening illnesses and other with old age. A lady I was in contact with in Texas was vigilant to be by her husband's side day in and day out. She accepted no help. It was part of her marriage vows to love in sickness and health. Some days are very lonely when the communication is hard to do. Other days the smile is all you need. Holding hands watching the facial expressions we try to absorb because someday they won't be there.
When we are just familiar with each other and we don't have kids to argue over things change. Something we should have talked about or said can't be said anymore. Make sure you talk until you are hoarse. Say everything you can say. Remember the "I love you's" because when you can't say them or can't hear them you loose touch with the person who is sick. They say the hearing is the last to go. Don't regret the last thing you said make sure it is real and heartfelt. Caregivers have a job that is never appreciated, but they need help and we should all ask what we can do. Maybe just a cup of tea, but they need to be noticed also. Caregivers are like a well worn quilt they wrap you in warmth and love. Thank a caregiver next time you see one. Chris


West Michigan Quilter said...

I didn't realize how heart breaking it is to be a caregiver until my 93 year old mother came to live with me. You are so right, it is more difficult than raising children. A big hug as I wrap you in warmth and love.

Bette said...

Nin Jiom Pei Pa Koa (ninjiom-hk.cwahi.net) may be another solution to hoarse and sore throat. i know a lot of people use it, its also non alcoholic, though it's effectiveness is not as good as alcohol based cough medicine, but it's still good to use on not so serious sore or hoarse throat. Hope you are getting well soon!!!

Carol G said...

Thanks for this touching tribute and for the reminder to say "I love you" many times a day. I'm a caregiver right now and it is the hardest road I have ever traveled.